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child development, parenting, education, child literacy,  wellbeing, infant/child developme​nt, spirituality, psychology, psychiatry, poetry, gratitude, bullying
cyber-bullying, 
story-making, mindfulness,  humanitarian action,
educational attorneys, substance abuse, mental health,
anti-stigma for mentally ill, literacy, health, literacy for adults, toxic stress and the developing brain, 
low & no fee mental health resources


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Resources listed here have been used and appreciated by parents, child, teen, adult friends and former clients,  psychologists and authors, clinical researchers, students and former students, medical and hospital personnel,
suggested by trusted clinicians, educators, foster parents, social workers, and others who've rated them highly.
However, sites and organizations change, so please consider these helpful suggestions ---
​they are intended to be informational only.


We do not assume legal liability for either their accuracy or usefulness nor do we assume responsibility for listing them as potential Resources.
​Thank you for understanding.  We always welcome your suggestions.

early childhood development
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*Zero to Three.com (comprehensive, no-fee global research and info, children ages zero to three, continually updated) 

*Child in Mind claudiamgoldmd.blogspot.com 
Promoting Children's Mental Health through Relationship Based Interventions.  - for professionals and parents.
*ACES.com  ADVERSE CHILDHOOD EVENTS SCALE -
Rich site of studies related to ACES, trauma & resilience.


​parenting 
Shefali Tsabary, Ph.D., Columbia University, 
The Conscious Parent

Dr. Shefali combines psychodynamic theory & warm spirituality. 

Yale Child Study Center & Daniel Siegel, books, videos, etc. - parents & professionals consistently endorse him. 

**Ross Greene
"What if Everything You Knew about Disciplining Kids was Wrong? Negative consequences, timeouts, and punishment just make bad behavior worse - but a new approach really works. Katherine Reynolds Lewis
motherjones.com July/August 2015 Issue

Janet Lansbury - Elevating Childcare
​Peaceful Parenting, Confident Kids

www.handsfreemama.com


empathic parenting


*"Reflective Parenting" . . . 

(referred to as empathic/reflective/mentalizing capacity -- nothing new, but recently strongly emphasized - the ability to reflect on the mind of another human being, deduce what that person (your child) is thinking and feeling - learning to exercise your capacities for delay and reflection as a parent.
​- refrain from being impulsive or reactive in parenting - and respond with an attuned understanding of your child's verbal or nonverbal communication.


positive discipline/soft discipline/compassionate child-rearing 
Parenting 2.0 (linked.in)
Mindful Parenting. The Inner Work of Parenting.
Myla Kabat-Zinn and Jon Kabat-Zinn


*No Drama Discipline, Daniel Siegel  
Parents love this book, often ask me for a copy - usually cannot keep
enough of them to give away - Dr. R.


L.R.Knost - Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting

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Resources


@littleheartsbooks

​foster parenting

A Home Within.org
*Dr. Tony Heineman

Connecting foster youth and pro-bono therapists for the past twenty years. This rich site is full of accurate child developmental, attachment based relationship issues and parenting material - I recommend it to professionals and parents alike to help them understand the lives of extraordinarily vulnerable children and youth whether fostered or not. 

engaged abbey
(no-fee division of abbey psych. services)

provides wide range of child and adult psychological assessment, assessment and treatment for extreme grief and loss, severe stress and coping, including treatment of extreme trauma and victimization in children and youth, nature, effects, assessment and treatment of exposure to high conflict and interpersonal, complex trauma, intra-parental violence, treatment of children, adults, families and affected others with chronic or life-limiting illness, psychological support for invasive medical procedures, etc., high anxiety and post traumatic stress, pediatric mood disorders and suicidality, attentional, anxiety and behavioral disorders, refugee psychology, asylum evaluation, torture recovery treatment. 

bullying, cyber-bullying, gender based harrassment
to become a teacher.org

(see section on bullying and cyber-bullying)

​addiction, substance abuse:
prevention, treatment  . . . and parenting . . . .
Beautiful Boy, A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction. David Sheff. 2009.
Tweak; Growing up on Meth. Nic Sheff. 2009.
It would be difficult to find a more powerful tale than this --  co-narrated by an extraordinarily gifted and heart-broken journalist father and the "beautiful boy" son who  continues today to  battle his addictions to alcohol and drugs.
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fusion recovery:
Michael O'brien

940 Saratoga Ave., Ste. 240, Saratoga Ave., SJ 95129
408-484-4740 or 888-885-9128
Fax 408-260-5003

Email office@fusionrecovery.com
Treatment/recovery center providing a full range of services.


​*second chance sobriety homes: San Jose
*Mark Frederickson, Director
secondchancesobriety.com
408.728.5479     877.640.0840

addictions/substance use,

training & treatment
Sam Himelstein, Ph.D., Founder, Director, Center for Adolescent Studies.

See Sam's books and newest training, MBSAT, Mindfulness Based Substance Abuse Treatment for Adolescents. We have trained with Sam, and are credentialed in this method. We endorse him wholeheartedly - he is warm and masterful - highly expert, especially on the treatment of incarcerated and at-risk young people.

muirwoodteen.com, 1.855.300.1720
Teen Boys only.
Petaluma County, CA, 40 day + program, request Scott

This is a great, effective away-program for troubled and addicted young males - very expensive. We have used this program and can highly recommend their services.

​storying ourselves:
memory-making

StoryCorps.com  Taping your life story for archives. An NPR Project that is just magnificent -- therapeutic in the widest sense!!

reducing stigma
anti-mental illness stigma
sane mental health charity ************

http://your.asda.com/…/meet-shadow-the-face-of-sane's-black…
Meet "SHADOW" . . the Black Dog of Depression . . . .
learn to tame him, learning to cope --join the BLACK DOG Campaign of the wonderful organization, SANE Mental Health, UK and Australia. Terrific cartoons, videos, educational materials which show the insidious persistence of mental illness in everyday life (via the "Black Dog") and portray state of the art attitudes for prevention and treatment in a non-stigmatizing manner.  You may join from the US, though only officially offered in UK/Australia.


volunteering & employment -- that changes the world . . .
and pre-employment for those in recovery and others:
Good Karma Bikes.org

San Jose, CA    

Fantastic program!!  Cannot recommend this highly enough for youth that are stuck . . . this is a nonprofit that provides training and even paid work for young people in recovery or with impediments such as mental health issues that prevent them from applying for and maintaining regular work.  There are levels of volunteering, training, and employment . . . investigate this fully before presenting this to your reluctant or discouraged teen.  They post weekly visiting hours for tours of their new facility.
Dignity, respect are here --  very well thought through programming.

dosomethinggood.org
excellent example of a contemporary 
approach in terms of process and content for reaching individuals at risk, particularly kids -- they developed the 
CTL (Children's Text Line) for troubled and suicidal kids - extremely innovative group!!


a home within
Over several decades, this organization has developed into one of the most meaningful in the US. Resting solidly on the conceptual framework of Attachment Theory and Contemporary Trauma Theory, this organization believes that every foster child deserves free access to quality, attachment and trauma based therapy from a therapist who treats them faithfully and without charge over the course of their lifetime. Thus they recruit, train, mentor and supervise/monitor quality psychotherapists to match with foster children, and continually conduct research in this area, making their findings available to mental health care professionals and the wider community and affecting public policy. 

Led by Founder Dr. Toni Heineman for over fifteen years, this is one of the national organizations I most admire and follow. It is the only one I know of serving such a vulnerable populations to ensure that they always have access to a stable, caring professional relationship for psychotherapy, advocacy, and support. Dr. Heinemann and her team are amazing!!
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**​therapy cat

​little free library
Provides a sense of community, an opportunity for
reading for children who may have little to no access to books,
literacy for adults who long to read
​through tiny, handmade, and FREE 
exchange libraries around the world !!

http://www.littlefreelibrary.org
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**let's build our own !
(AND PROVIDE FREE BOOKS for sharing with children and adults in our neighborhoods and downtown areas . . .)
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literacy
read, write, create!
the rumpus.net
E. A. FARRO
**how people 'form constellations' to help make sense of the world"     
July 7th, 2015
Brilliant, compassionate article about how a writer/poet constructs and gives away
 charming, free, homemade books and collects the poetry ordinary people write. 
The Little Poetry Library: Corner of East Lake Street and 39th Avenue South, Minneapolis.                   
WE CAN DO THIS!
wwwReadingRockets.org
a fantastic resource!!
theimaginationtree.com
(website & Facebook - highly creative educative ideas for preschoolers)
@bookriot on twitter
the artful parent 


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reading, adults . . .
brainpickings.com

(an incredible wealth of deep, varied, material)
New York Review of Books
The New Yorker 
Psychology Today 
Cambridge University weekly Review (online Fridays)
The New York Times
Huffington Post


wellbeing: living with gratitude
http://www.gratefulness.org/login/
see your words.com
streetlovingkindness (video by Sharon Salzburg)


spirituality-
spiritual direction: 

Contemplative Center of Silicon Valley
12850 Saratoga Ave., Saratoga, CA 95070   408.255.0955
Together in the Mystery (online) Frederick Buechner - 
all his books can be purchased used, follow his blog -
Spirituality and Health (magazine)- general 
PrayinginColor.com - creative, meditative media for all ages 

​Buddhist
Pema Chodron - any and all writings
Sharon Saltzman on Happiness - classic
Norman Fischer, SF Zen Monastery, everything! Everyday! Buddhism brought to the West. Follow him through Nov. Issue, Lion's Roar . . . online, and at SF Zen Center.
Fleet Maul -- all his writings, everything - he is another Engaged Buddhist (see Prison Dharma Institute)

poetry and books:
Yes. Poetry. 
Fiction. History. Novels. What are we reading? 

What are we and our children reading together?  
Recycle Books, San Jose. (We LOVE these two stores!)
Rattle Poetry Journal.
Stone Soup (CHILD journal/magazine) - Child -

humanitarian:
alwaysbelisteningglobal.com 
Our global project for war/armed conflict affected refugee children on country borders.


​Kibera Slum School, Kenya, is one of our Always Be Listening Global Initiative 501(c)3 Humanitarian Projects, led by Country Director Elisha Ooga, Principal of the school - in 2015, a family in the UK donated electricity to the buildings which shelter the learning centers for the nearly 300 school children - see below.

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 educational attorneys
David Tollner, Atty, SJ  408-286-3081                                   
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Caroline Nedley, Atty, SJ  1.408.690.0414
Jean Adams, Adamsesq.com (low fee poss.)             


child psychology
Dr. Stephanie Rosso, Ph.D., Oakland/SF   (and for referrals, East Bay)              
5737 Thornhill Drive
                                                                                                                                                                                       

child & adult medical & psychiatry
Stanford Med, Child & Adolescent: 1.650.723.7704                                            
child & adult  psychiatry 
Stanford Med., Psychiatry & Beh. Sciences (Adult):                       mindfulness online: Headspace              
mobile phone: 1.650.723.6643                                                                                 Founder, Andy Puddicomb
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nsightTimer.com
                
​child psychiatry                 
                         
santa clara county                                         
*Glen Elliott, MD/Ph.D., CHC, Stanford,                                 Lion's Roar (online, excerpts Shambala Sun  
(age + meds + ethnocultural match/referral)                                                       Tricycle  (deeper reading)
Children's Health Council                                                                                          Elephant Journal (online) read, write for
650 Clark Way Palo Alto, CA 94304, (650) 326-5530         
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You, who are on the road Must have a code
That you can live by.
And so -- Become Yourself
Because the past Is just a good-bye

Teach your children well
Your father's hell did slowly go by
And feed them on your Dreams
The one they pick The one you'll know by
Don't you ever ask them why
If they told you you would cry
So just look at them and sigh
And know they love you.

​And you of tender years Can't know the fears
​That your elders grew by
And so please help them with your youth
They seek the truth before they can die

Teach your parents well.
The children's hell will slowly go by
And feed them on your dreams
​The one they pick The one you'll know by
Don't you ever ask them why -
If they told you you would cry
So just look at them and sigh And know they love yo
u.

​Teach Your Children, Crosby, Stills, and Nash. Released, 19